I have come across this interesting documentary about the battle of sexes and how media and language are used to promote the way we think about the female gender
Are women seen as sexual objects, where things can be done to, be it with consent or without, against payment or without payment? And has media pushed men to use new and angry ways of sexism?
In my opinion, media is purely the channel for promoting our emotions but language and graphics are the factors that actually create those emotions.
The language grows and expands every day but not necessarily into a positive. When in the past, in the old days in Venice, the girls who sold sex for money were called courtesans, who were admired by the most rich and powerful men, now the same girls are called hookers, whores, prostitutes and slappers and are often approached by the lowest part of our society. So the question is, has the attitude towards workings girls in form of language changed or have the girls changed all together with the language.
If you look online now, you see all those girls who advertise themselves in a degrading way and offer sexual services such as bareback, rimming, deep throat, gagging, facials and more. I am just asking myself, do those girls do it because of the demand or because they actually enjoy it. Certainly if a man wants a woman to lick his arsehole then it is either a sign of huge disrespect towards that woman, an excessive overuse of pornography or the lack of education. Ejaculating over a woman’s face – really? When you read and see all of that you ask yourself where the genuine gentleman is gone who loves and adores women, who values the company of a beautiful woman and who he can passionately make love to.
The common misconception of sex starts at a very young age with education. By watching porn young people are trying to educate themselves on how to perform in the bedroom. Unfortunately porn is made by men for men and it is not designed to please the female desire but purely the desire of men. The man in such case is the dominant who treats a female like a sex object that things can be done to. “Roughly gagging hot young slut” are phrases that are common to see in the porn scene. This makes me sad because I am a great believer of genuine and passionate old school love making. A man who pays for sex, in my opinion, should treat that woman in the bedroom as if she was his girl-friend, with respect and care. I am always surprised by the amount of men who want to do anal sex. Has actually anyone from those men tried to stick anything up their own bottom or not even that far, has anyone from those men ever been to a colonoscopy or prostate check up? Well if yes, and if it was uncomfortable, then multiply it by ten and you will know how it must feel for a woman to receive anal sex.
An additional media that expresses violence and harassment against women are computer games, which are popular amongst the young people. One of the best sold and most popular computer games of our times is the Grand Theft Auto. Unfortunately it expresses extremest violence and hate against woman and in particular sex workers. Is this really what turns men on, buying prostitutes and after receiving your sexual service hurting them or even killing them? So how can such a hugely popular game have a dismissive representation of women? For some this is just fun and a game but most people don’t realise that this is the cruel reality for lost of street prostitutes. They are physically and verbally abused by punters and sometimes those even try to kill them, simply to get their money back.
Has this hateful attitude towards women always been there or was it rather pushed by the media and the new ways of language and the female exposure?
I am a great believe that manners cost nothing and that if a man would treat a whore like a lady she will treat the man like a king in return. I do not like to see myself as a second class woman because I sell sex. No exactly the opposite! I am highly educated, sophisticated, well spoken and that not only in English, I am beautiful and I can seduce a man or woman without even taking my clothes off. I do not hide my face like many others because I stand up tall for what I do. I provide pleasure and happiness and yes I make many men smile who long forgot how it feels like to be happy. It upsets me that hate language such a hooker, prostitute or whore is uses against women like me. For the future I wish a better education and in particular sexual education for our children, so that they don’t forget how important it is to love and respect the other sex, disregards if you are paying for it or not.
If you have a little bit of spare time then watch this fascinating documentary by BBC about the battle of sexes and when sexism crosses the fine line and turns into misogyny.
Enjoy and be good my dear friends!